Dear Abby: My husband and I have been married for 16 years. His ex was supposed to pay child support, but didn’t. He worked in his career for only one year after we married and since then has held menial jobs, which have kept his future retirement intact. I have provided him and his children a home for which he has never made a mortgage payment or taxes, utilities, clothes, etc. His children have never lacked for anything.
His ex now wants to resolve the back child support issue by giving the settlement amount of money to the kids. I don’t feel they should get it because it is owed to him. I’d like to see him use it to pay off some of his credit card bills, which are high.