Dear Abby: I am in a 14-year marriage, but there has always been another woman, “Emily,” I have thought about almost daily the whole time. My wife and I have just turned 40. We have no kids, but we have a dog. I always thought I would want kids, and we tried half-heartedly, but there is no real intimacy to this day. I kiss her goodbye in the morning and, for years, that’s been it.

Emily is all in on a relationship with me still to this day. We had a great relationship with great sex and I miss all of that. I’m struggling about the right thing to do, partly because I know the pain this will cause.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also know as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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