Dear Abby: My 40-year-old son has been in a volatile on-again, off-again relationship with a woman who has physically and emotionally abused him repeatedly. He’s an Iraq War veteran with issues of his own, including a previous marriage and messy divorce from a narcissistic woman. They share custody of two grade school-age children. The current woman has grown children, plus a pre-teen boy (with issues also). The last time they split up, my husband made it clear that she would never be welcome in our home again because of her violent temper. We don’t condone that behavior.
Our son has now decided he thinks he “loves her.” He wants us to give our blessing, including having her in our home and being one big happy family. We are sure this “reunion” will come with her assurances that she has changed, and it will never happen again.