Dear Abby: My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year. He’s amazing and I can see myself marrying him and having a family one day. There is only one problem. We are healthy in our arguments except when his job is brought up. He’s applying to go into the police academy.
I have always told people I would never be with a cop because of my own anxiety. We fight about this all the time, and while I don’t ask him to find something else to do, it’s kind of implied. I don’t mean to be like that (or do I?) because I want him to be happy and do what he wants, but I also am terrified his job won’t end well.