Dear Abby: My husband, “Charlie,” and I have been married for seven years. We are in our mid-60s. This is the second marriage for both of us. He was widowed some years before we met. We have a good marriage. He is sweet and caring, but one issue causes friction between us. It’s about letters he and his late wife exchanged.

They were high school sweethearts. She kept all the letters he sent her when he was away in college, and after she died, he wanted to keep them. It bothers me that he’s still attached to them. Whenever we talk about the subject and I ask him to dispose of them, he gets defensive, says he doesn’t understand why it bothers me and accuses me of being unreasonable. He says I don’t even “let” him have a picture of his late wife among our family pictures around the house. My first marriage was very troubled and I never wanted a picture of my late husband. But Charlie’s was a happy one.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also know as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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