Dear Harlan: My husband and I have been arguing about our teenage daughter’s decisions. We have a 14-year-old who is a musician. She has been playing since third grade. We have invested a lot of time and money. We also think this has been good for her self-esteem. She recently told us she wants to quit when she goes to high school.
My husband wants her to do what she wants to do. He doesn’t believe in forcing her to do something she doesn’t enjoy. I believe we need to be parents and push her to get through one more year. I know it’s a mistake to let her quit. Now my daughter and husband are against me. How can I let her do something I know in my gut is the wrong thing to do? — Musical Mom