Dear Harlan: I lost a little more than 70 pounds this year. I’ve been getting a lot of attention from friends and family during the holidays. I live in a different city and see them a couple times a year. The topic of conversation is how much weight I’ve lost and how great I look.
Whenever they pay me a compliment it feels like I must have looked so bad before I lost the weight. I try to be grateful, but I can’t help but have hurt feelings when they go on and on. They wouldn’t say anything if I gained some weight. Why do they feel it’s OK to go on about my appearance now? Am I wrong to think this? — Weight Loss